I had a really long talk today with one of my bosses. I’ve introduced her in at least one other post as Audrey. She is the CFO of our [as of recently] 50+ person company, and resident “House mom”. She’s from New York and is basically my idol. She has a very dry sense of humor, (like me) and isn’t afraid to speak her mind, (like me).
So, as you may remember from previous posts, my company is based out of Germany, but I work at the US headquarters. We have showrooms in LA, NYC, Chicago, Charlotte (we have a showroom as well as offices), and a new warehouse/showroom opening in Houston soon.
Anyway, we host interns from VS Germany every year. They come over during their summers to basically “tour” the company. They’ll work in each department for a few days up to a few weeks depending on how long they’re in the states.
Now, our German counterparts are basically the Apple to our mom and pop. VS is THE school furniture manufacturer in Europe (or so I’m told) and they don’t feel the need for marketing in the sense that we do over in America.
Anyway, since my recent takeover of our social media marketing (find us on Insta!), I’ve been brought onto a project with an intern who is coming to the states to work on her thesis on social media marketing, so I went over to talk with Audrey about this earlier today and we got off on a few tangents.
Three hours later (literally), as I was standing up to leave, she said something that stuck with me all afternoon.
“It’s amazing, your attitude through all of this. Looking at you, you’d never know you had cancer. I don’t know how you do it.”
And I said, “What’s amazing to me is the people who think they couldn’t do it.”
Your body is an amazing thing. And the brain even more so. It learns to cope with what’s going on around you. While it doesn’t exactly “mute” the feelings, it does teach you how to deal with them to make them go away if you listen hard enough (try listening to your body sometime, you might be surprised at what you hear).
My body taught me that in order to make the sadness go away, I have to let it engulf me. And I let myself feel it for however long it takes—although I do try to limit it to a certain amount of time. For example, “I’ll cry for 10 minutes and then I’ll do something that makes me happy.” And that has been a really healthy way for me to cope with all of this.
So—and I fully believe this—because of my coping mechanisms, those little moments are becoming fewer and farther between these days, for which I am thankful. The grass, in this case, really was greener on the other side. I have found a joy I never knew I had, and it’s nice to be here.
So it’s fascinating to me, now on this side of things, that there are people out there who think they wouldn’t be able to handle a crisis.
You’re stronger than you think.
And if you think you’re not, come talk to me. I’ll help you fix that, and you won’t even have to pay me for it.